When I was 14 my Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer. At that age, I didn't really understand what that meant and when Mum responded to the treatment it didn't seem to matter, she was going to be ok!!
Then, 4 years later, Mum fell ill again. She'd only been for her 6 month check-up a month earlier and been given the all clear, but as a precaution the Doctor sent her to the hospital for some tests. Three weeks later, Mum died. She was just 52.
I remember feeling numb, I couldn't believe I was never going to see my Mum again. We were very close. She was a loving parent, an all round caring person, putting others needs before her own. She taught me so much and just as I was learning to be an adult, she was taken away from us by such a horrible disease and I would no longer have her guidance, this was extremely painful.
I was lucky, my Dad is also an amazing person and he took on the role of both parents. As much as I was hurting, I always remember thinking of him, I lost my mum, my Dad had lost the love of his life. I also thought a lot of my Nan, as awful as it is losing a parent, losing your child, your only child, must be one of the worst experiences anyone could ever go through. My Nan and I were already close, but our bond became so much stronger. We'd see each other three or four times a week and together we helped each other through the pain and heartache.
In June it will be twenty years since Mum died and I miss her as much now as I did then. In that time I have got a degree, become a wife and had two beautiful children. My children and I often talk about Nanny Ann and how much she would have loved them. These are all experiences I wish I could have shared with her, but I know how blessed I am. I was lucky to have been given four extra years with my Mum and I will always be grateful for that. I still have my wonderful Dad, who now, not only plays the role of Mum and Dad, but that of Grandad and my children adore him. And at the beginning of this month we celebrated my Nan's 93rd birthday!
The fight against cancer is so important and I am so proud of my cousin for all of her fund raising efforts, “pink pong” is an a’MAY’zing initiative and her determination and drive will I’m sure help in the fight against such a horrible disease. - Lucy Bellis (nee May).